I was disappointed with Dr. Randy Schroeder’s response to the worried wife in the October Family Counselor section of The Lutheran Witness. It suggests a sin-and fear-based stance leading to control and limitations. The husband is encouraged to modify and limit his interactions with the opposite sex due to his wife’s anxiety. Nowhere is the wife encouraged to examine her own anxiety and fearfulness. She, too, has a responsibility to give “through self-sacrificing love,” not just her husband.
With trust, love, commitment, and acceptance, blessings are available to both husband and wife in a thriving relationship. One should marry wisely, thoughtfully, and carefully to avoid saying “You can’t” or “You shouldn’t” after saying “I do.”
Barb Foster, LCSW (retired)
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